(Mis)conceptions and Great Expectations: general crap news (except for the IVF front

Friday, April 17, 2009

general crap news (except for the IVF front - so far, at least)

{Deleted info.] Anyway, regarding said now-destined-to-fail IVF: that news was good. My antral follicle count was 20, which was basically the same as last time, and my hormone levels were perfect. That is something to be grateful for, and I am. Did the first Puregon injection tonight - 125 units. Going in Monday morning to see what's shaking.

Need to find an acupuncturist for ER. Must also remember to stop taking coenzyme q-10 after retrieval.

Wish there were some way we could monitor the sperm situation, too. DH has been on the RE-recommended vitamins for almost three months now, plus he's taking pycnogenol and fish oil capsules (certified mercury-free). And eating mostly organic foods, and exercising a lot more.

It is too much to hope for to get a baby out of all of this. (And then, as a bonus, to say sayonara to high school after Christmas.)

Please don't say: be optimistic, think positive, at least you got a job, at least you have good hormones, keep a stiff upper lip. I can't handle hearing that right now.

7 comments:

Anonymous said...: Hey! I just ordered my DH a refill of pycnogenol. He has been taking it for a few months. Do you know if it really works? Also why do you have to stop taking CoQ10 before ET? Sorry about all the news. Your AFC is great though. I don't know what I would do with 20 follies. Thanks for all the support on my blog.; April 17, 2009 at 11:46 p.m.
..al said...: Can't believe what they have done to you...especially if everything so strong on your resume...you deserve an explanation...totally! What crap level are they evaluating?

Atleast the follie count is good....but it is a total what-the-hell at your university....; April 18, 2009 at 2:04 a.m.
IF Optimist, then... said...: I'm rooting for you on all fronts. You seem to be a dynamic, intelligent and funny woman. We need more of you in the universe.; April 18, 2009 at 10:44 a.m.
Felicia said...: Just wanted to send hugzz! I have some understanding of how you feel. I have spent 10 years of my life being a nurse and the last 2 teaching nurses - which I love. But I know I am underpaid and could do so much more - I have a Master's degree. I am now working on my PhD and wonder if this is a waste of time and money because I feel like my ideas are unoriginal. One thing I wanted to share is a comment my mentor made about original ideas. She reminded me that some of the biggest contibutions to scholarly work are additions and improvement to what is already out there. That has made me feel more confident about what I am doing. I hope it helps you.; April 18, 2009 at 11:57 a.m.
HC said...: I really feel saddened and also outraged by this. Hope the principal can provide some answers as to what happened there. Arrggggh!!!; April 18, 2009 at 4:53 p.m.
Victoria said...: Yippeeee for your follicle count. More eggs to play around with after retrieval.

Why do you have to stop CQ10 after retrieval? I didn't know that.

Hope you're feeling better after the job news and I hope they call you back and give you the job of your choice.; April 18, 2009 at 8:05 p.m.
Kate said...: Well, I'm glad to hear the antrals and bloodwork looked good, but I'd be shocked and pissed on the job front too. I hope someone can give you some answers, cause how much more qualified can you get?
So sorry to hear that that's not working out the way you wanted.; April 19, 2009 at 7:49 a.m.

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Hi!

I'm a teacher and an aspiring writer. I love reading, writing, watching good TV, photography, fashion, and great food. I just finished my graduate degree in Education.

My partner and I tried to conceive, on and off, for over 7 years. I have PCOS (so borderline that it was never really an issue) and the dude has severe male factor. We started this screwy trip by getting misdiagnosed (buddy, you're fine! - your wife has the problem!). I should sue that first clinic.

We had one IVF/ICSI which resulted in a miscarriage. We will not forget.

We got out of the IVF Funhouse over a year ago and my RE told me I was knocked up, but I didn't believe him. I still don't, even though as I type these words the most beautiful 8-month-old girl in the world is sitting on my lap.

Ciao,

One Hit Wonder (now literally!)

(And, thanks to my friends, also known as 'Our Lady of the Lost and Found' and 'Academia Whore.')

TTC c.v.

crap, i should update this list. i did have a baby recently.
Oct 2: Midwife appointment.
Sept. 1: Midwife appointment. Should get a booking for an ultrasound.
August 11: Started (very tentatively) to buy baby necessities.
August 7: Felt baby move!
August 4: Midwife appointment: emotional health check-up. She also says I'm measuring 2 weeks ahead.
July 22: Gp says I'm measuring ahead.
July 9: Told DH's sister, BIL, and 2 nephews. DH and I phone his niece, who's sick with swine flu, to tell her the news - she's in charge of telling the rest of DH's family.
July 7: First appointment with midwife; heard heartbeat. Told my family and then DH's mom. Got doppler in the mail.
June 30: Bought maternity clothes.
June 26: Second u/s and last obstetrical appointment with RE.
June 8: Phoned midwife with u/s news; will set up appointment after we've moved.
June 5: First u/s and obstetrical appointment. One heart doing 140 bpm. :)
May 21: Third beta - 824!!!
May 19: Repeat beta - 309.
May 15: Beta - 113.
May 14: The vaguest of positives, part deux.
May 13: The vaguest of positives. Midwife phones; I don't return the call.
May 12: Afternoon BFN on $ store test.
May 11: BFP! Scared! Already did an intake with a midwife.
May 8: A LOT anxious.
May 7: A little anxious.
May 3: Day 5: Transfer: 2 lovely blasts, already hatching. 4 blasts frozen for later. RE says I have moderate OHSS. Acupuncture.
May 2: Day 4. No updates. Take antibiotic.
May 1: Day 3. Still have 15; 5 are in the lead.
Apr 30: Day 2: 1 embie arrested; 15 developing well. Feeling ill.
Apr 29: Day 1: Fertilization report: 20 mature eggs and 16 fertilized! Speechless! Start Prometrium (3x/day) and Estrace (2x/day).
Apr 28: Egg retrieval. 21 eggs retrieved. Stop coenzyme q-10.
Apr 27: Bloodwork and acupuncture.
Apr 26: Monitoring. Full OHSS protocol. Trigger before bed.
Apr 25: Monitoring. OHSS protocol 'lite.'
Apr 24: Monitoring and acupuncture.
Apr 23: Monitoring.
Apr 22: Monitoring.
Apr 20: Monitoring. Afc 35+. Estrogen 1100.
Apr 17: Pre-stim assessment. Afc 20 and estrogen great. Start Puregon 125 units.
Apr 10: Last bcp. Woot!
Apr 7: Start medically induced menopause (aka: Lupron).
Apr 6: Endometrial biopsy (ouch!), cycle review, $11,070 due. Cyst aspiration cancelled - it burst and is disappearing on its own.
March 21: Start bcp
March 19: Day 3 u/s and b/w. B/w results excellent. U/s shows massive cyst on my purely decorative right ovary; RE wants $500 to aspirate it. wtf?
March 17: CD1 - we're back in the IVF Funhouse
March 11-16, 2009: Spotting. Come on, af!!!
March-May 2009: Second IVF/ICSI/AH (long protocol, plus endometrial biopsy). Hannam says no to Glumetza, as per new research. Waiting for af so I can start Marvelon.
March 2009: Follow-up with Hannam. All tests negative, plus DH’s DNA frag test comes out awesome – better than most men’s! (Though his morphology and motility are still abysmal.) I start extra folic acid again, as well as co-q10.
Feb 2009: Mf testing.
Jan 2009: Negative beta. Clinic says to go straight to IVF stims, no mf testing. DH and I argue about donor. We talk about separating. Switch clinics. Hannam orders mf testing and puts DH on new massive doses of antioxidants. I have karyotyping and SHG. I try a new TCM doctor, but it all COSTS so much!
Dec 2009: FET/AH with Grade 2 5-cell. Faint + on one test at 10 dpt, then nothing.
Nov 2008: WTF appointment - RE says male factor is the cause of our problem, and probably not the PCOS. I go off Glumetza, as per TCM doc’s recommendations, as it’s crashing my blood sugar.
Oct 8, 2008: M/c at 4 weeks 5 days.
Oct. 7, 2008: Beta 20. Start bleeding late at night.
Oct 5, 2008: BFP! Best day of my life. I go to DH's workplace to surprise him.
Aug - Sept 2009: IVF/ICSI (long protocol). 11 eggs, 5 fertilize. (Hardly any sperm at all after the wash.) 2 die on day 3. We transfer 2 average graders; freeze 1.
Summer 2008: At WTF appointment, RE recommends IVF/ICSI. DH starts vitamins. I've been taking vits all along, but now I start acupuncture and Chinese meds, too.
Spring 2008: Injects/IUI. Only 1 follie, for whatever bizarre reason. DH's mf discovered – less than 1 million survive wash, plus motility and morphology SUCK.
August 2007-March 2008: Move 2000 km, partly to find decent IF clinic; WAIT for provincial medical coverage to begin, and then wait some more for RE referral. In the meantime, on vacay in Central America, I o and again don’t get pg – I realize that a natural pg isn’t in the cards.
July 2007: Lap and hyst - ok, except my right ovary is purely decorative, which I knew. No injects yet – huge family issues.
Dec 2006-March 2007: Clomid 4x- BFN -s/a again ok, my bloodwork fine – I beg for thorough tests for myself –HSG is clear.
Dec 2006: First appointment with RE, who is out to lunch in every way, but since we’re in an underfunded and remote area, there’s no choice.
June 3, 2006: DH watches Big Daddy movie and decides that he wants a baby. S/a ok. Referral to IF clinic. I start charting. Am amazed that no one ever told me I could read my body’s fertility signs.
Sometime in 2004 – June 2, 2006: TTC on hold - DH not interested anymore, and I'm in a series of devastating car accidents (none my fault) that wreck my back. Start M.A. Go on Met at some point, even though my bloodwork is now normal and my ovaries don’t look that bad, but it does nothing for me.
Spring 2002- 2004: TTC casually. I don’t know what ‘ovulation’ or ‘Fertility Friend’ are. I never POAS, nor do I care.
Spring 2002: DH’s uncle dies. We think life is too short, so we toss the bcp.
2001 or so: PCOS dx (amenorrhea, right ovary anovulatory, LH:FSH out of control, hair loss, acne, fatigue). I spend the next few years bringing it under control with diet and exercise.
1996: Af always out of whack, so I get bcp (which adds 15 lbs to my frame). Doctors will not test to see what’s going on.